Obviously sexual confidence is a turn-on. So are a .7 waist to hip ratio and white teeth. It's like when you apply for a job. A confident, positive attitude is most important but you need the suit and the resume too. However, I think people in general do adjust to the changing/aging appearance of their peers. I once read a magazine article about why older men date younger women and the reason the men gave was that they felt like women their age couldn't "keep up with them".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
