Frankly though his Herculian struggles to keep us fed and housed don't really impress me like they once did. I can't help thinking that he has the few loyal customers he has because of inertia and he won't get any new ones while he goes round looking like a homeless person. I have talked to him about self-care and about how it affects how people see him but he just hears this as me telling him he's ugly. If he has work to catch up with in the evening why does he spend 3 hours on it, opening another beer every half an hour and coming away from his desk to smoke for 10 minutes out of every 30. If he didn't do that he could probably get it sewn up in an hour.
Dude's got ADD. Last time we talked you didn't see that many signs of it, but now I figure he just hid it well, and hid from you in part because he's ashamed of it. And I'd guess he took up drinking for the same reason. He doesn't ever stop "looking busy" because he thinks if he does someone will see him "slacking off" and yell at him to get back to work. Mrs. Eddie could have written all that a couple of years ago, except for the bit about the drinking.
And you're right, mothering him in any form is a bad idea.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
