I was so relieved to read this section of your thread b/c I have been feeling guilty about some of my own negativity in the area of the kids. I think that we dedicate so much time, energy, and emotion to piecing that there often seems like very little left over for other things. Also, for me, I feel that I sometimes fly off the handle because my H has difficulty with chaos in the home, so when the kids are creating it, I often feel as if they are actively working against me (I know this is irrational, and I only think it for a minute, but...)
