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[MJontheMend]

One thing to bear in mind as a Type 7 is that your H's dependency issues are actually giving you a certain amount of structure in your life. It's like you have a chronically sick child who is constantly ringing an annoying little bell to remind you to do yet another tedious task to care for him. If you guys separate you will experience a wonderful feeling of freedom at first but then you will have to start building up more of your own structure to deal with certain life tasks. For instance, I am thoroughly delighted to never wake up and see a post-it note that says "Clean Me" on my coffee maker but I now need to make my own decisions about how often and how thoroughly to clean the coffee maker. My decision has pretty much been informed by the thought "Any anal retentive (picky-*ss) coffee drinking people who want to be my friend can drink coffee with me elsewhere." Same thing holds true regarding my physical appearance. My 2bx hassled me to lose weight. The guy I'm dating now thinks I would look hotter if I put on 20 lbs. of muscle. I have decided to simply workout on a regular basis and keep my waistline at 29 inches because that makes me feel healthy and dress either like an overgrown cheerful toddler or an overgrown cheerful toddler who scrounged around in the costume box for something to wear to an adult event because that makes me feel cheerful.