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[mrarow]

Well micoms and happy1
I hear you loud and clear, Lets see I have stopped being complacent in my marriage and have started to really listen to my wife when she speaks and not turn things into what about me and my feelings.
I have stopped being complacent with the kids and have been giving them a ton of attention and building all my relationships to a level I have never felt before. I feel closer to all three of my girls than I ever have.
I have stopped being complacent with myself and personal hygiene. I have cut my hair, lost 40lbs, workout, had eye surgery so no longer have to wear glasses, whitened my teeth ect, ect...
Have been addressing my problems with very being very intense and controlling in the past. these behaviours and have been a major reason for the door being open to another man amongst others. I am making super progress here and continue to improve with counselling.
I now help out with all parts of household chores which I never did in the past all before!! Cook,Dust, Vacuum, run errands ,drive girls everywhere,I even do bathrooms and toilets.
I am in the process of becoming a very good listener and trying not to pressure her with my feelings anymore.
I am still having a very hard time not being affectionate at this time, that's a major problem for me still. I love her so much!!! Thanks for continued support and input.