Adventures of Supermom...JennyF's 2nd thread

[JennyF]

Weird day today.

I was expecting H to come over after his hockey game to put up the X-mas lights and see the kids.
He calls at 12:15 or so saying he's on his way. Asks if I want something to eat...I say sure. I knows he back in being nice mode, but I wasn't expecting that.
He gets here in time to put D down for her nap. Then we ate our subs and discussed X-mas gifts for the kids.
Then we talked again about gifts for his Mom and sisters. After a long discussion we decided to buy them gifts from D & S to avoid doubling on presents from him and presents from me. Good compromise!!

We also agreed that he would come over on Christmas morning really early to spend the morning with the kids and watch D open her presents from Santa. I was glad. It will be weird....but in some ways I will be glad to have my little family together on Christmas morning even if it is under false pretenses.

After some other small talk I made myself busy around the house while he slept on the couch with S. (not exactly rushing to get those lights up!).

I asked him if he wanted to have dinner with us. Over the last 7 wks since H was born he will not eat with us. He would be here, but just watch D and I eat and never join us even if I asked (which I had stopped doing). Today he accepted the offer. The only thing he did was sit in a different chair than he normally would have when he was here. It was nice though.

Funny thing...and a little awkard to mention. He was beginning to give D her bath and called down to me to come up in a hurry. He asked me to watch D in the tub and he RAN to washroom....for the second time within about 1/2 hour.
Now I'm not trying to give EVERY detail of my day here....but this interesting because during the last couple months before bomb drop H was CONSTANTLY in the bathroom with a terrible stomach. (has anyone seen Dumb & Dumber? You get the picture). It was when he was trying to hide the affair and it was like it was concience working on him through his stomach and butt!
He was never one to have this problem, so I just thought it was interesting that it was and issue tonight. Concience getting to him again??

After D was in bed he stayed for about 45 minutes. All in all he was here for over 8 hrs. AND HE NEVER PUT THE X-MAS LIGHT UP!!! WTF??

He was sweet as pie the whole time. Only one minor moment of tension that I managed to fend off almost immediately.

I knew after our blow up the other day when I called him on what an angry a$$*^$e he'd been to me, that he was going to get nicer. But I wasn't expecting this.

I am NOT reading into it and I won't try to analyze it as Lizzy said. I don't believe it means his feelings are changing or he's having second thoughts. I know this is not the case. I know he wanted to spend time with the kids (and this was the longest amount of time he has spent with S since he was a week old).
I did catch him staring off into space a couple times and I wished I could read his mind (not the first time I've said that).
I have to say that I'm just glad that it is happening at all because I believe THIS is the environment necessary for ME to DB properly. This is where I need to get REALLY good at showing him my changes and being the best I can be. This is the environment where the seeds of doubt could be planted in his head and at least get the wheels turning.
I am going to go back and reread DR to make sure I am as ready as possible. Any words of wisdom from anyone is much appreciated. Anyone with experience on how their WAS may have been at a similar stage would be really helpful too!
I hope and pray this is the beginning of a NEW journey that is going to bring us back together. I'm ready!
J~