The stop button on this roller coaster

[brandnewday]

Sophie,

I am terribly sorry you find yourself here, but you are amongst good company.

There are many here who have already walked in your shoes and can give you loads of advice.

First things first...

What is it you ultimately want to do.

Reconcile or Divorce?

I ask this only because you made a comment in a post about leaving your Husband and I just wanted to know.

Whatever it is you decide to do, you will still have plenty of support here.

My Husband had a horrible MLC and I think all in all it lasted for about 5 years. He still has MLC "moments" but that is part of the recovery process.

He has been home for 9 months now and we are rebuilding our lives again. It hasn't been an easy task.

You see, while they are off in MLC-land, the LBS does alot of growing and searchng and changing. The MLC'er doesn't change. They don't do anything to better themselves.

When they finally come out of MLC they are the same person as they were before they went onto MLC but we are not.

I spent most of the time he was away working on my own issues, and trying to become a better person. I don't handle life the same way as I did before.

My Husband is making changes now and is trying to catch up. It take a huge amount of patience, but I think it is worth it.

I am telling you this because I want you to know that there are so many facets to MLC, so many stages and so many ups and downs.

Describing this as a rollercoaster ride is exactly what it is, but it gets better and you will survive.

Please keep posting here and venting here.

Hope you had a good weekend,

BND