But I still say you will have trouble with this poly stuff as soon as you start to have LOVE for one guy in particular. And then, given he is a devout poly guy himself, you will have nothing but aching heartache and proceed to eat an entire box of chocolate chip cookies for comfort. Of course, this heartache can occur just as easily with monogamous R too so.... I'm probably just jealous at the thought of having three different men sexually validating me in one week.
Well, in the non-fiction memoir "A Round-Heeled Woman" in which a 67 year old woman places a personal ad searching for hot "just sex", the interesting thing that happened was that she did have just hot sex with some guys, affectionate encounters with some guys and she fell madly in love with one man who was involved with another woman in a LTR. It wasn't even that the sex was so hot with the guy with whom she fell in love, it was more of a mind-meld pilgrim soul thing (she was an English teacher and writer). At the end of the book, she is heading off for a vacation of hot sex with a 30-something year old David Duchovny look-a-like. I could easily arrange for hot sex encounters with hot 20 something year olds if I so desired and I didn't have a 19 year old son and therefore think "yuck".
What is my point? Like you said, it's just as easily to be miserably heartbroken in a committed, monogamous LTR. Especially one in which cr*p happens like you say "I love you" after sex and he replies "Thank you.". At least in the land of polyamoury or even serial monogamy you can limit your cookie eating to the time period it takes to find the only known cure.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
