w8ting - I am sorry about the legal sitch, and have just emailed BBA [Baseball Annie] who now posts in surviving divorce, I htink - you might pop over to her thread, and ask her to visit yours, or give advice there. She is a lawyer, whose h divorced her a while back - one of those who couldn't wait to be shot of her.
Can't remember whether you were around when she went to a family wedding and saw the troll he had hooked up with. Always and Lissie couldn't believe the contrast. It was like the princess and the ogress . . . Boy had he affaired down, and down, and down