aaa, no. Stop with the self blame. Just a way of ducking..really. I learned that one the hard way.
So a few tidbits. Cake falls on rug...so what its a rug!! Who cares. He wants to vacuum, let him..its a rug Who cares. He wants to move the table, let him try. Maybe it will be awful and he'll say, hey, you were right this doesn't work. Maybe you will like it. Its a table, who cares? Relax, have some fun. We are not your furniture.