is he too young for MLC?

[WAS32]

Listening and learning. I feel like I am back in elementary school again. I really hope this gets easier. I think he is suppose to have the kids this week end. I'm not sure because he might be moving into his own place. It makes me happy and sad at the same time. Where he has been living has not been a place for me or the kids to really be at for more than a few minutes. So him on his own will make that easier. When I said it would give us a chance to spend time together all I have to do is find someone to watch the dogs for me. His reply was you don't have to do that, just bring them there is a fenced back yard. I am thinking that is one of those little responses you look for.

I asked him yesterday if he wanted me to get some boxes so I could pack his stuff he got offened. He says you want my stuff out of here? I told him no I just thought you would want all your stuff if you are living in your own place. He said I guess. Not sure what that means.

Then when he left I was lending him my vacuum and jokingly said don't break it, it's the only one I got if I move out of here. He says well why would you move from here.(house is paid for no morgage) I said I wasn't planning on living here forever. He thinks that I should. I ended the convo right there because I didn't want to get into a R talk with him. Now I have't heard from him since. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH! I need to scream oncce in awhile. I am not calling or texting only that quick email last night. I will let him come to me so I figured I would journal here for a bit. Keep my hands busy. Thanks for listening to my rambling.

[WAS32]

Listening and learning. I feel like I am back in elementary school again. I really hope this gets easier. I think he is suppose to have the kids this week end. I'm not sure because he might be moving into his own place. It makes me happy and sad at the same time. Where he has been living has not been a place for me or the kids to really be at for more than a few minutes. So him on his own will make that easier. When I said it would give us a chance to spend time together all I have to do is find someone to watch the dogs for me. His reply was you don't have to do that, just bring them there is a fenced back yard. I am thinking that is one of those little responses you look for.

I asked him yesterday if he wanted me to get some boxes so I could pack his stuff he got offened. He says you want my stuff out of here? I told him no I just thought you would want all your stuff if you are living in your own place. He said I guess. Not sure what that means.

Then when he left I was lending him my vacuum and jokingly said don't break it, it's the only one I got if I move out of here. He says well why would you move from here.(house is paid for no morgage) I said I wasn't planning on living here forever. He thinks that I should. I ended the convo right there because I didn't want to get into a R talk with him. Now I have't heard from him since. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH! I need to scream oncce in awhile. I am not calling or texting only that quick email last night. I will let him come to me so I figured I would journal here for a bit. Keep my hands busy. Thanks for listening to my rambling.

[Dom R]

When I said it would give us a chance to spend time together all I have to do is find someone to watch the dogs for me. His reply was you don't have to do that, just bring them there is a fenced back yard. I am thinking that is one of those little responses you look for.

sounds like a positive to me.

I asked him yesterday if he wanted me to get some boxes so I could pack his stuff he got offened. He says you want my stuff out of here? I told him no I just thought you would want all your stuff if you are living in your own place. He said I guess. Not sure what that means.

It means, "dont 'help' him move out, it makes him feel like you dont want him with you". and that he doesnt really want his own place.

[WAS32]

I guess there is a fine line on being clingy. I was only trying to show him support with his move. Sometimes I feel like I am doing everything wrong. I haven't heard from him since he left yesterday and it's killing me. I am feeling more scared than anything right now. I think I will go loose myself in my housework for awhile and see if that helps.

Thanks again Dom.

[WAS32]

It worked!!!!!!!I never called him and he just phoned to see what I was doing today? I never asked what he did last night he just told me and then he mentioned the email:) Made him smile. I told him I was cleaning and if he was coming over to give me a call before he came so I could be ready to go when he got here!

I know it's a small positive but it's something.

[WAS32]

So I don't know if last night was a good thing or a bad thing. H ended up spending the night here again. I'm not sure if he is here because he doesn't want to be at his place with his room mate. I know the room mate is driving him nuts. Or is he here cuz he wants to be. Anyways, he started talking to me last night about started in the greenhouses again with our business partner. I know that a lot of our problems have been with the partner and the way the business would run. It caused a lot of stress on our M and it is a big part of why he left. I was being supportive of his idea but I told him he should write it all down and sleep on it for 48hrs.

We went over to his parents after this conversation picked up his trailer for moving and dropped off D4 for the week-end. When we got back I thought he was taking S8 with him back to his place for the week-end.

He went and poured us drinks and said he was staying for awhile. A few hours later and a few drinks later we started talking again about R and our future. His doing and his words. Well I ended upcompletely breaking down. I told him that I wanted no part of the greenhouses. It was a major issue with us and I have been working so hard to get things back on track that i just can't go there again. I told him I would be completely involved in our other business (which is landscaping and I always have been) and help him there. And if he didn't want me involved in the landscaping then I was going to go back to school for something else. By this point in time I was crying. He came over to me and put his arms around me. Told me that we wouldn't do the greenhouses and he does want me part of the landscaping. Everything he said was with WE'S and US.

So I think it might have been a positive but maybe it was just his reaction to me crying. Not really sure. I hope I didn't screw up to much. He was quiet this morning again but gave me a hug when he left. He has to come back tomorrow to bring S8 back. I guess I will see how he is then.

[WAS32]

This is another new weird developement. Last night H told me that he wants to go a whole month without sex. He said he needs to know that this isn't about sex. It's kinda weird for me to hear him say that because the lack of sex was one of the major problems in the M and now we have been working on it and he wants to cut it off. Litle confused right now. But I do think this has something to do with his very lonely room mate. I think he has put this in my H's head because he's not successful in any R he's been in and is jealous that H and I are working towards sometthing better. Anyways, I just was wondering if anyone else haad this happen or did it themselves. Thanks for listening!

[WAS32]

So the whole no sex thing flew out the window as soon as we saw each other. He made all the moves and I did actually try to stand by what he said last night. I don't know if it was a test or if he really didn't mean what he said last night. I know even last night about an hour after he said it I got a text saying "did I mess with you". So I don't think even he knows what he wants. I really think his jealous room mate put things in his head. I know my H can be easily swayed if you try.

But I remember reading a response from a previous blurb that I wrote "sometimes it is good for recovery." So after him trying i finally gave in. I really hope I didn't screw up. I guess this could have been a test to see how I would react. I guess I won't know for a few days where his mind is at. Feel like I am sitting on pins and needles. Anyone got any ideas on this?

[WAS32]

NOt sure where H is at today. He is kinda short with me. I know he is doing tax stuff right now and that makes him bitchy. Maybe that is all it is or maybe it is the last few days catching up with him. Not pushing though, trying to let it slide.

I hope he will talk to me but I'm not going to pressure him in to it. Just trying to be strong right now.

[Dom R]

This is another new weird developement. Last night H told me that he wants to go a whole month without sex. He said he needs to know that this isn't about sex.

Heh... getting(or staying) married "for the sex", doesnt have to be a bad thing. I think probably lots of young men get married, for the regular sex The main thing is, are they going to work at "all the other stuff", that makes a marriage work well between two people, in order to keep having that regular sex?

if they do... then is it really a problem?