You sound really great. It is so nice to see for you. Must be just what the doctor ordered.
You were too funny. I too loved your response to H of "don't think so" about it only being girls. Heehee. You done good, Nik! And good thinking on taking a separate car to the race Friday night and limiting your time there.
It's likely your H is waiting for others to make some of the decisions about his BD for him. There's nothing wrong with you deciding what you will or won't do, so you can at least have a plan for that day even if he doesn't. It seems to me like it'd just plain be uncomfortable to go to his Mom's. If it were me, I think I'd act as if it's never been an option (for me) to go there with the way she's been.... but with no hard feelings of course, just the way it is right now... and with no expectation of what he would do either, of course. That's a boundary I'd like to think I would have anyway. It's good to be consistent on how you expect others to treat you, and your H has a front row seat to that R. I think it really shows him, not just yourself, how you will be treated. If you don't value you enough, he won't either. You know that, just wanted to share my thoughts.
Your hotel room sounds so nice. Glad you and the other DBer who was able to make it enjoyed a meal together. Have fun shopping today. It's so great to hear your strength is improved already with this retreat. I think it's a good sign you felt like you'd been gone for a week already.
Have a great Sunday!!! (((((NikB)))))
Me: 37 M: 14 yrs Separated 10/06; Filed for D 12/07 Life is good.
It is so nice to see for you. Must be just what the doctor ordered.
