Still hopeful for some pleasant surprises

[SirPrizeMe]

The key current question, the one I had posted on the tail end of my prior thread (but I think that thread will lock soon) - should I step into the house, if she invites me in, next time?

some details: she has filed D papers. She changed the locks on the door, made some comment about "I'm afraid you'll come in the middle of the night..." (I've never done this, threatened this, etc). She also sent me an email saying, "given the pattern of abuse in our marriage, I no longer give you permission to enter our house, without my explicit invitation (Etc etc etc)" It sounded like legalese, if you ask me. She did it on advice of someone else, either her sister, her attorney, or a book.

here's how I found out the locks were changed: The wednesday before thanksgiving, I called to arrange a time when I could get my bicycle from the house (asking for an explicit invitation). She informed me that she and the kids were already "gone" for the weekend. I asked if, under the circumstances, it would be ok if I went to the house to collect my bike. It was then she told me I would not be able to get in. I asked, "How am I going to get my bike?" Not grumpy, not angry, not petulant. Just - can you help me solve this problem? She then began to tell me where the spare key was hidden. I stopped her - told her I don't want to know. We arranged to use a neighbor as a trusted broker, but that's not important. The point is she changed the locks on me, and then days later offered to tell me where the key was hidden.

I'm DBing my Arse off. The question now is, should I accept an invitation into the house, if she offers, next time?

I really want to.


Tonight! S10's bday dinner. We're all going out together. This is a milestone. It's been 2+ months.

Should be fun!