Quick summary: By the time we had been married 12 years, W was feeling antsy. changing hair color often. Not terribly satisfied with her deal. In 2004/5, we went through a period where we didn't ML for 10 months. She didn't even notice it, expressed disbelief when I told her how long it had been.
Spring 2006, my job had changed, I began travelling more often. At the same time our best family friends were going through some marriage troubles. That friend's W took a job in another state, came home only on weekends. W and my best friend became closer. PA started in May 2006.
W of best friend discovered this in in July 2006, called to let me know. I was devastated. We had been planning to move the family across the country; close date on the new house was 10 days away. Decided to go through with it.
We moved, mutually committed to working on the M and R, but never really got on track. W continued to communicate with OM.
W complaints about me escalated as time went on. From, I was always unhappy, to I was scary, to I was controlling. W's current position is that I was abusive for 20 years (this is recent).
We separated Sept 1st, with an agreement that neither of us would file for divorce for 3 months. Almost made it! She filed papers November 27th.
I'm still DBing.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
