Thanks - your post brought tears to my eyes. I do, I desperately want my M to work. I love my H more than I could possibly express. I've always tried to make it seem like I didnt care and that I was tough.
I agree that the affair is based on a fantasy - he has never really tried to visit her more.
Today when I asked whether he was divorcing so he could get married to her - he said, 'I dont want somebody who would leave another person'. ow apparently got married last year and is now telling H that she is ready to leave her H.
I will check out BND's thread right away. Thanks again for the faint glimmer of hope.
