WAW staying, I'm leaving to give her space..(2)

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it ain't gonna happen unless she really wants to go.....nice gesture though.

I understand this. So I guess I setup the C for me. If/when W is interested, it will be setup & ready. I think W is interested at this point but I want her to feel no pressure about it whatsoever.

if your W wants to spill the beans and come clean....she will. It will be her decision to talk.

I must be learning because I understand this, too. I was only wondering if it will ever come out, that's all. IMHO when W called me at work on Fri she was ready to do this. I think I missed the opportunity because I was at work, then she had to work that night.

IMHO W showed genuine interest in saving M the other day, she expressed genuine interest to get back to happy times with me. I don't think she was acting. IMHO if W is still hiding an A, it's probably because she doesn't want to ruin chances with me, W believes that if I catch her cheating/dating/whatever she did/is doing that I won't want her/the M anymore. OM is probably her 'secondary/backup plan'.

W has been trying to talk about her nights at work now, she WASN'T for weeks. She may not be telling me everything but at least she's making a cheerful attempt at communication. That's a step in the right direction. I'm just going to keep the OM/A info to myself for now, even my mother suggested that! I'll keep working on me, PMA, act ASIF, GAL, educate myself more, see what happens, see where my next opportunity for positive change comes. IMHO, I don't think I'll have to look very hard to find it..