Looks like the end

[Dom R]

(reordering the quote that follows a little...)

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That doesn't mean he doesn't love her. I'm sure he does. But he is not capable of showing it in a consistent, genuine way as long as he is not in some kind of recovery program.
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Dom, Fran's husband is an active alcoholic. The normal rules of relating don't apply.

I am not really trying to convince Fran, "yes, he really means it this time!"

while the "normal rules" of relationship dynamic and healing may or may not apply in her situation, though.... I have difficulty accepting the notion that if someone is an active alchoholic, you should show them NO courtesy or politeness, until they do exactly what you want and go to rehab.

I'm not suggesting she jump up and down and say "wow a 3 course meal how wonderful you are!!". I'm just suggesting that she show at least a standard level of politeness in thanking him for his efforts.

she kinda made it sound like she was just going to eat the meal, and face him with only an attitude of "you know this changes nothing... i dont buy this...."

She may feel that.... and she may have complete justification for that feeling.
To treat him as though he has already let her down for the future, though, would be not right, in my opinion.

Yes, he probably will. but dont "punish" him, until he actually does it?