Okay I also have a 2x4 along with Rob. You were very much contributing to this conversation. In fact you said you started the arguement because you were pissed about something.(the dog) But then you turn around and blame the whole thing on her. If she tried to tell you any beefs she had with you then you threw in her face the affair she is having. Maybe she was trying to explain before the affair the reasons she was unhappy. Like you could do something but be damned if she could do something and not make a decision with you. She says she feels you don;t have empathy. She is saying this I take it as prebomb and that is the way she felt. All I am saying is she must have felt these things for a reason. Sometime's you do seem to be confrontational and angry. With good reason right now I will add. But think about before. Was she hurting? Was the marriage bad? Or were you Mr. Wonderful who treated her the best a man could treat a woman?
You were also responsible for the fact that the kid's heard this. Because it takes two to have a fight. You could have said let's go outside. Or let older son babysit and hash it out elsewhere. So could she have. But see that's where you were both at fault. You were loaded with anger because you were mad about a dog. She was feeling self righteous that she should be able to get something if she wants. But either one of you could have made the decision to stop this fight. You brought up the boyfriend maybe because you want them to know. You feel it's coming to an end and you want them to know. So she is made to be the bad guy. I think you guys are in a serious power struggle right now. This is going to damage the kid's bad. I can tell you won't be easy to deal with unless you can check some anger at the door. Just like the comment you made to Jar that if it was you you wouldn't have even called your wife to let her know daughter was in emergency room. That is terrible and a total power struggle going on in your mind. It was like you said,she chose this so deal with the losses that may come your way. If your daughter is lying in an emergency room and it's during my time oh well you chose this life. That's not fair and believe me she would have ammo in court.
I am sorry for the 2X4. I just see you going down a bad path right now. Your full of anger and hostility and it's showing big time. You are also in a power struggle. Believe me you are justified to be angry she cheated on you. But if you are feeling this much anger why not just walk away right now. It will be much better for the children to not have to witness these fights. It scares children.
