Time For Me to Fly

[Ohio_Mark]

Why don't you file for the D? In the past, the reason was because you did not agree with it and - if it was going to happen, she was going to have to be the one to do it. If you now believe that a D is the best course forward for yourself and your kids, what's holding you back?

The thought has crossed my mind. However, I don't believe that a divorce is the best course for me and my kids. I think reconciliation with intense MC and IC is what's best. And as long as I believe that, I will not file.

If a D is farther than you are prepared to go right now, what about a separation? As in, tell her to get her crazy a$$ out of the house?

We are already "separated." Well, she lives here, but she sleeps in a different bedroom. I believe that she is doing this under the advice of her attorney. I think it fulfills the period of separation required for a divorce, and she can tell the judge that she did not abandon the kids. It's nothing more than legal maneuvering on her part. But she will not move.

Finally, how are your kids doing? Have you talked to them about it, since they overheard you and W talking?

We have not talked to the kids. I am not really sure how much the kids heard, though. The bedroom door was closed, but I don't know where the kids were when we were talking. I have no doubt that if they have questions, they will ask.

Thanks for the support. I am going to continue DBing. I gave her PMA this morning. I am not going surly/passive-aggressive. So DBing will continue. But I will not tolerate blatant disrespect. No more of that.