Just out of curiosity, let's say you get into a new R where the sex is incredible, and you also start to really fall in love with this person. But the other person just doesn't feel as many "in love" feelings as you. Is this a R worth staying in? You seem to be the "one up" in lots of your current post-separation R. The one in control. Maybe you like that aspect of it and are looking to poly-R's to keep the feelings at bay? Are you scared to fall in love with someone? And if you did, would you / could you stay poly with that person?
