Mark, I'm very sorry that you've reached this point - but that is your decision and I would never question your right to decide when you are done. I do admire you for everything you have done, for yourself and for your family. You are a good man.
So, some more tough questions for you...
Why don't you file for the D? In the past, the reason was because you did not agree with it and - if it was going to happen, she was going to have to be the one to do it. If you now believe that a D is the best course forward for yourself and your kids, what's holding you back?
If a D is farther than you are prepared to go right now, what about a separation? As in, tell her to get her crazy a$$ out of the house?
Finally, how are your kids doing? Have you talked to them about it, since they overheard you and W talking?
Stay strong, and remember that we are here for you.
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!