b, Very happy about your "date". I too struggle with expectations. It seems like it is never enough. What usually happens is my mood is affected by this and I am not fun to be around. Sometimes I have to remind myself where I was a few months ago. There is quite a bit of talk regarding rings. I toke mine off a while ago. WAW still wears hers. I always thought it was more cosmetic than anything else. I know she noticed mine was off (mentionned it once or twice). I will do a 180 and put in on...we will see what happens.
I caught up on your sit. Way to be patient!! I know it takes a while to see how DBing can work, but you are seeing results now. I know you are feeling uneasy about the ring but can I suggesst not wearing it again to the next meeting/date? Reason being she noticed you were not wearing your--trust me--women know. And if you are making the plans to buy the gift, driving to look the gift and asking her to dinner AND show with the ring, she may retreat.
She already knows why I'm not wearing it. At least I think I know. It doesn't fit me anymore and I've almost lost it twice now. I told her that, but I was still wearing it at that point. I do plan on getting it resized at some point, but I just haven't gotten around to it yet. Thanks for your input though.
B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
So tonight was interesting. I think that it was all positive, but I could use some input.
First she met me at the house and came in for a few minutes and petted the dogs. She seemed kind of grumpy when I asked her questions, so I let her do most of the talking. It was about a 45 minute drive to where we were going to look at the snowboard. We chatted about how our days were and what was coming up for the rest of the week. I have a Jeep Wrangler with a soft top, so once you get going highway speeds road noise makes any sustained conversation nigh impossible. She seemed to be warming up though as the night progressed.
We got to the house with the snowboard and it looked like a real good deal. So I paid for it and we loaded it up in the car. As I was pulling out I told her merry Christmas. She turned to me to kiss me and I stuck out my cheek!?! (Hits himself in the head) I think that she was going for the lips. What the hell did I give her my cheek for!?! I don't know what happened...
On the way there I had asked her if she wanted to go out for dinner too. She agreed to the restaurant I proposed. So when we got there and ordered I paid for both of our meals. She said that she could pay for her own, but I told her not to worry about it. The she goes "Are you taking me on a date?". I just kind of smiled and brushed it off. Now this is the interesting part and the part that I don't know how to interpret. Halfway through eating she starts talking about her snowboard and thanking me for it. Then she says "Are you trying to win me back?". !"@!J%#@!()&T WHAT??? Of course I am. I didn't say that though. I said in a playfully sarcastic way "Now why would I want to do a thing like that?" and then promptly stuffed my mouth with food. She smiled and said "I don't know" in the same tone. We were both quiet for few minutes.
The rest of dinner and the ride home were nice, but not much of interest happened. She did complain that she didn't have any hangers. I guess she didn't take any when she packed up her stuff. So I told her that she could take what she needed. This is something else that is interesting. Up to this point I'm pretty sure that she's thought that I was still sleeping on the couch. I stopped doing that around Thanksgiving. But in order to make myself comfortable in the room I had to gut everything that she left behind. I don't think that she expected that when she went in there to get the hangers. When she came out she had a scowl on her face, but I acted as if nothing out of the ordinary was happening. I was upbeat and chipper.
She petted the dogs again for a few minutes and then said that she had to get going. I walked her out and she gave me a long hug and a kiss on the lips in the breezeway. I then went out to help her load her car. She gave me another long hug. It was nice.
On a side note, she didn't have her ring on tonight. I didn't really expect her to keep wearing it, but I guess that a part of me hoped that she would. I still didn't have mine on though either. I feel good about tonight. Any input is appreciated though.
Peace, B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
It's funny about the room, I always wonder if H notices the differences around here.
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Then she says "Are you trying to win me back?". !"@!J%#@!()&T WHAT??? Of course I am. I didn't say that though. I said in a playfully sarcastic way "Now why would I want to do a thing like that?" and then promptly stuffed my mouth with food
Good thing the food was handy! This is where I would have thought of something witty to say an hour later, but I think you did well.
Is there a lot of 'flirting' going on? Maybe this is a good time to start subtlt flirting with her. I remember Pudmuddle snafu talking about this in one of her posts right before she and her h recinciled.
It's hard yo know what's too little and what's too much right now. Sorry I'm not much help. J~
I've been thinking about trying to flirt some. I would really have to watch her mood though. During our date last Friday she seemed pretty down for a while and I don't think that she would have been receptive to it. But last night she would have been. It's scary though since I'm not sure how she would take it. She seems to be pretty comfortable in the "Friend Zone" so I'm wary to leave that. It does seem though that if we're going to get back together, it's going to be up to me to make the moves. I just have to make sure that I take it slow and don't push her.
You are helpful J. I really appreciate your input.
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
