If you're serious about really saving your marriage, rather than just talking about it on this message board... go DO it.
Why do you feel the need to continually dictate to Sandi how to manage her M? I understand you are trying to help, but if she just wants to vent, she has the right to do that. I really think you may be making her feel worse/guilty for not being able to be all gung-ho like you insist she be. Lay off her a little bit. sheesh. And I apologize Sandi if I'm off base with this. But I can relate to not always feeling up to dealing with our stressful M's. I think most people on this board can as well. Just do what's right for you and don't let anyone else dictate how to do it. It's your life and your M. Good luck to you.
