H lost his job on Wednesday. He is having a bad time and taking it out on the kids and me. The kids are with my mom and my H is wandering around Jacksonville because he refused to get back in the truck after we did some Christmas shopping today. He says he is worthless, no good, etc.... I left him there... I am an hour away and he is just wandering around the streets, He has been feeling enormous guilt about what he has done to our family.. He stopped seeing his therapist saying that he had it figured out and could just wing it from there. Now we have lost our only source of income right before X-mas, he is truly devestated as this was not his fault. They are closing the dealership and fired him along with several others without warning. I know that people deal with this all the time and I have tried to be positive about it to him but he is just acting weird.. really weird.
Has he truly lost his mind?
help!! Lisa
Me:37 H:38 6 kids first bomb 8/05 (ow involved) piecing 7/06 second bomb 3/07 ow involved wash rinse repeat.... huge move to start over 2/11 more affairs H left for good 8/12
Lisa, Ok, first of all, your H will be eligible to collect unemployment until he finds another job. This he should look into first thing Monday morning. But more immediate, where do you think he was going? Is there a friend or family member you could call, close by, that might go look for him, since he doesn't want to face you right now? Perhaps that might be a good phone call to make.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
He actually texted his sister who is 19 and basically implied that he was going to kill himself. She is sick with worry. His dad has called me several times. He refuses to let us know where he is, his brother lives close about 30 minutes away but like I said he won't let anyone know where exactly he is.. crazy huh? I am really scared.
We did the unemployment thing online today. He has a bachelors degree and 10 years upper management experience- it will easy for him to find a job so I don't know why he is all doom and gloom. Plus I can go back to work also-I have a degree and my real estate license so it's not like it is the end. is this just MLC still rearing it's head?
Just when you think the rollercoaster ride is almost over!
love,Lisa
Me:37 H:38 6 kids first bomb 8/05 (ow involved) piecing 7/06 second bomb 3/07 ow involved wash rinse repeat.... huge move to start over 2/11 more affairs H left for good 8/12
His cell phone should trackable as long as he has it on. Contact the authorities and see if they will help with a potential suicide case. Best wishes...
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Lisa, Checking in to see if your h was found. It sounds like he's hit a rough pocket of depression and he should be on meds and seeing a therapist. Unfortuantely, when they begin to feel a bit better, they tend to cease seeing the therapist. I do hope that someone can convince him to go back into therapy. He needs it now more than ever.
About employment, w/his degree and experience he shouldn't have a problem w/employment. When he's in a better frame of mind, suggest that he look at some of the "contracting" positions that private contractors may have working for the Federal Government. There should be plenty of private contractors in your area. They pay well and have good benefits in most cases. It's a stepping stone to other positions.
Lisa, I'm so sorry that this has happened and I do hope and pray that he's found safe and sound. I'm sending warm thoughts your way this morning. Please let us know how you and the family are doing.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
