you will be fine today, you will listen with an open mind and a zipped lip. remember, the only person you can control is you. he is going to do what he wants when he wants and you are going to let him. today you will not speak of your wants or wishes, you will listen to his.
your honestly, while well validated on every angle, is not his honesty. you need to hear his honesty. he knows yours. it only makes him feel more guilty and then he will not want to be around you as his guilt will grow.
tomorrow you will go dark. tomorrow will be all about bear. tomorrow you will not be there with dinner cooked, nor will you participate in helping him if he has already started. tomorrow you will start letting him be the big boy he is, he can do his own laundry, make his own coffee and get his own damn water.
if, during your husbands talk today this is what he wants, give it to him. give him exactly what he needs.
surround yourself with positives. right now he is a negative and it is impacting you with negative thoughts, feelings and actions.
this is hard, this is painful but this is life. you will survive. you will survive with or without him. it question is, will he?
much love, much blessing and much strength.
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
