So....after reading the rest of your post....the only thing you can do is keep that A and the knowledge of the OM in your head....if your W wants to spill the beans and come clean....she will. It will be her decision to talk. Everything that she has done MAY be a sign of remorse, guilt....but like you are guessing....it could just be a front to sort of test the waters on her own feelings by howing you that nothing is going on and possibly thinking that she may have to lay low with this other guy. Losing sleep.....comes with the territory on all this.....weight-loss too. I think you are doing great with the kids...they should be your main focus. They are your life right now....your W has her demons she will be dealing with. Be the best Dad you can be and that is what really matters at the end of the day. Snooping????? Well, I'm sure you have read where that has gotten a lot of the posters here.....NOWHERE but being pissed and angry of what they ahve found and confirmed.....and with some....it just about blew everything that they had been working for as far as DBing....never a good thing.
