Time for honesty & truth for a new beginning

[JennyF]

Wow bear...you let it all out!
I did this with my H a few days before my S was born. Same thing...he just sat there with that blank look on his face listening. I don't know if he really heard any of it. I like to think he walked away and thought about it...but 2 months later I at least know that it did not make any difference. In fact I'm sure it further solidified his feelings. The more I talked about how wrong he was...the more firm he became in his decision.

H then says I will see you tomorrow. Tomorrow I try to say ( work up with no voice this am) I say you have got to be kidding me you are staying overnight with her?

Were you really that surprised? I know you were hurt by it, but were you surprised? My H had his work Christmas party last night and I'm sure they were together.
Of course...he's not hiding it. He's telling me it's over btween us with no chance of trying. Why wouldn't he spend the night with her? It sounds the same for your H. Maybe because my H doesn't live here anymore (errr...right now), it's easier to accept...or maybe I should say...easier to EXPECT.

I think tomorrow you should maybe let him do the talking. Listen and validate. Try to read through DR and refocus on DB'ing (that should keep you busy tonight!!).
I don't think there is anything that you told him that he probably didn't already know...but I think you maybe should prepare yourself for the fact that he just doesn't care right now.
Sorry bear...I know it's a rough night...I'm thinking about you.
J~