not a peep

[Trixi]

A huge percentage of marriages get saved, because the leaving personone decided to "stick around for the children". or "stick t out for the money". or....

But the point is, for whatever reason, they change their mind, and dont go for divorce after all.
Then after a while longer, ideally, their own selfishness pokes up, and they wonder, "Hmm... well.. if I'm going to be 'stuck here'... how can I make it more pleasant?"

And that has already happened for him. In 2001, we had a BAD summer. He was sad, lonely, mad back then and ready to divorce, but decided to do the "right thing" and stick it out for the kids. The past 6 years haven't been horrible- in fact, we had a lot of good times especially the past couple years when my thyroid was fixed, but he already had decided there was an exit, so, in my opinion, he never fully committed to putting effort into the marriage.

At this juncture, I don't think there is anything I can do to change his mind. I have been trying since late 2005 to stop this train. I don't want to convince, cajole, manipulate, guilt,scare financially or anything else to get him to come back. As sad as I am at what looks to be the ultimate outcome, I am tired. I think I deserve to be loved, REALLY loved and cherished and he can't do that right now or maybe ever.