By your reasoning, a wife whose husband knocked her to the ground in a drunken fit of rage and then showed up the next day with a diamond necklace should just try to be grateful for the gift.
I think that is a ludicrous comparison.
I believe that what is at the heart of marriage, is the willingness to look at actions that your spouse has shown to you, and be willing to believe that they mean well, rather than taking the negative interpretation automatically.
If you start off by taking the negative interpretation... then you have already closed down the marriage yourself.
Once you start always assuming the worst.. then no action they do, will ever be taken as a positive.
Been on the recieving end of this one. Being shut out, is a major anti-motivation factor to keep trying anything positive.
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I'm sure Fran can tell the difference....
1. she's not a mindreader 2. she didnt sound like she was interested in determining the difference 3. at the very least, it's nothing more than politeness, to acknowlege nice things done for you.
Last edited by Dom R; 12/09/0703:27 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
