I'm really sorry for you.
I know the pain you are going through. It's horrible.


He seems to think he knows what he wants.

Maybe it's time to give him what he wants.
But on your terms.

Seems like he wants you to be out of his life.
I say it's time to do that.

Get yourself a lawyer. Make him pay for it. Tell him that's the only way you're going to agree to a divorce.
If he whines about "that's too much money".. just tell him that is HIS problem. He's the one that wants the divorce so badly; he has to agree to pay all your legal fees up front.

Once you have the laywer, then tell him, "If you change your mind, and decide that 10 years of marriage is worth something to you after all, I'll be willing to talk about it with you. Otherwise, you can talk to my lawyer. I dont wish to talk to you about anything else."

He wants you out of his life. So, give it to him. pitch black. Once you have the lawyer in place, dont talk to him, dont have him over, dont take his calls... nothing.
For 6 months, if neccessary. 'cause that's what it may take.

He wanted you to "stand up for yourself", remember?

Time to impress him with how well you can stand up for yourself.



Last edited by Dom R; 12/09/07 02:04 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle