Thanks for the response. I had read the MLC resources and that's why I posted here. In fact when I emailed a friend the MLC for dummies - she wrote back and said, is that your H's bible - its so him, its unbelievable, where did you find it?
I suppose if an affair is atypical behaviour, then maybe my H is not in MLC which is a relief in many ways as it means he is not going to suffer in the ways that an MLC would. My H has always been very flirtatious but I dont know if he would have had an affair. But then again, at this point I dont know what to think.
I suppose I should also mention that the OW is not in the same country as us and so the total days that they've seen each other would not amount to more than one month in these three years.
Early this year, when we began to re-commit to the marriage, H was a totally different person. It was as if a fog had lifted and the same person I had married was back. Now, the same man who appeared when he was having his affair is back in a more vicious way.
