Mandy, I'm sorry he's being a horse's rump, but it appears that you popped his bubble w/the golden pin of reality. He's not happy and nothing you did or didn't do would have been the right recipe for his happiness. Now, he has nothing to hold your heads and can't threaten you any longer.
As for the belongings, he walked, came back an got odds and ends and then walked again. I say he needs to get a life w/the new wifey. Don't get sucked into their drama now. You have a new life, free and clear of the @ss.
Enjoy your new home and have a wonderful holiday season w/your son. The future will be so much brighter w/o his threats hanging over your head.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
