Thanks for the encouragement WP. I hope to be where you are one day. I believe that I "get it" now, I know exactly what she was missing and needs. The only question is a) how I can actually convey that to her, and b) whether it even matters at this point.

I did get an e-mail from W today. All business, just stuff about various bills. And, she got her job in NY, so she is leaving in January \:\(


Me: 43 W: 41
Together 2009, Married 2011
Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5
Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021