Thanks for the suggestions. I needed them. I know I must be very careful not to 'upset the boat' again for several weeks. I'm VERY aware that I cannot start smothering her now. W already mentioned this morning that just because of our conversations yesterday/this week, not to think it's ok to start pressuring/smothering her at this point. I immediately have backed off but obviously it takes alot of willpower. This is probably one very big reason that me moving out for a bit may be a good thing.
I am VERY aware that my actions and ability to not go back on my word(s) is EXTREMELY important right now. I know I need to SHOW not SAY. IMHO this is what W is waiting for, consistent change. IMHO W really wants to trust me but is very scared until SHOW her some more of what I am capable of. I MUST be patient.
I see a small improvement, W was pretty talkative about her night at work and somewhat cheerful this morning but we have a looooooong way to go. I'm at my apt right now unpacking. I'm giving this my best, will update tonight if anything new or important arises.
_________________________ Me: 38 W: 36 R 16 M 12 2 kids: S6, D4 Bomb: 10/22/07 Sep: 12/11/07 My First Thread, My Story