UD - you always give me something to think about. Thank you for always putting the questions out there for me.
It isn't that I would want my H to admit that he is or has been wrong. We both contributed to "wronging" the marriage. I don't need to hear those words from him. And I know that keeping my family intact is more important than hearing those words. On an intellectual level, I believe this.
But if I were honest with myself, I would have to admit that it would be difficult for me to never hear some type of acknowledgement of the pain that he caused with the way he ended everything.
I asked my mom this (for those of you who haven't followed my story, I am a second generation LBS - my dad left my mom in a major MLC - they are back together after a several year separation). My mom said he never apologized, but he did tell her that if he would have divorced her, it would have been the biggest mistake of his life. Honestly, that would be enough for me. But is that too much?
You know, UD, I have never talked to a counselor. I tried in the beginning to find someone and everyone was booked. For me, I think I am doing okay, but I know it is something that I can do if I need to.
I am doing better today. Don't know what it was about yesterday...probably just the overwhelming financial aspect of it all. I have been shuttling the girls around all morning and now we are going Christmas shopping. I had some challenges this morning with D13 that I would have loved another person to bounce some ideas off of, but I handled it. I believe H is seeing his "Biscuit" this weekend because D11 tried to call him and he didn't answer - he only does this when he is there. I am surprisingly unaffected by this.... If I don't think about the financial aspect of everything, I really can see a lot of this pretty clearly.....
Angelica - I am going to read those posts. I think I am also going to reread DR - it has been a while and I remember reading it the first time and feeling pretty upbeat by it. I will also see if I can find the theories you talked about.....
