Overall you did well. But I have to agree with COG that you are still trying too hard to "fix" things. You are trying too hard to tell her that you are changing.
That will backfire.
The best way to "smother her with love" is to listen without offering solutions. Let her figure out the solutions on her own.
The best way to "smother her with love" is to show her your changes - not tell her.
She has moved away from you. It is up to her to move back towards you. If you move towards her she will bolt.
And she will only move in your direction if she SEES changes. If she SEES that you understand and that you care about what she is saying.
If she asks what you think share your feelings, not your fixes.
Tell her:
"I can see how you cannot trust me"
"I feel bad about how your friends and family may feel. I know how that must hurt you"
"I can see how going out socially may be wierd for you. I feel that will work itself out as I get my drinking issue handled."
See where I am going here?
Again, you did well. Keep the expectations low. In fact I would predict her anger will return again soon. She will regret appearing "weak".
