Glad you found DB, and the boards. I'm not a "success story", but I have been DBing for quite a few years. I have a good understanding of it, even if I'm not a pro at applying it. I don't think there is anything wrong with using the LRT in your case. In DR, one of the times Michele suggests to use that is when you are separated or your S has filed for D already.
DBing is doing what works. Keep that in mind! Try to be consistent so you can truly see if something is working or not.
All of us have failed at times. None of us are perfect. When you fall, just get back up, dust yourself off, and keep moving forward. Focus on the positives. What have you done that has worked?
I read your other posts. Is your wife the one with the drinking problem? It would be helpful if you shared a little more of your background. Were there things your W was unhappy about that you could've used to change? Anything you want to be different? What was good between you two?
Yesterday when she started to cry (not that that's a bad thing necessarily) when talking about the R, what was being said?
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I guess... what I'm saying is that I don't feel like I'm going to be able to keep doing the LRT. I'll keep reaching out until its too late.
Focus on what you want. What do you want? Don't be shy here. Think big... long-term... then work your way back from there. Then you'll be able to set some short-term goals. We can help you with those here.
Most of us wished we had a crystal ball when we got here, but you can learn to accept what is, control what you can, and let the rest go by DBing. Best to you. Do something nice for you today. (((((TheProducer)))))
Peace and love, f21
Me: 37 M: 14 yrs Separated 10/06; Filed for D 12/07 Life is good.
Focus on the positives. What have you done that has worked?