Need Help/ Suggestions - Part 2

[Handful of Rain]

NoDirection, she has used my kids against me, many times, and tries to, this day. It seems like to me that to her they are nothing but money and power, a way to try to control my actions. That is where she is wrong. My kids are my heart, She only has the power to use them, against me if I let her. Not going to say, that I am always in control, the Lord knows that isn't the case, but I always make the best effort to be.

When it comes down to it, there is only a few things worth fighting for, and that is happiness, and love, for yourself, and your son. I know that you will do whatever you have to give him, happiness, and show him that he is loved. Take care.

[NoDirection]

yeah, it is tough to let her go off and take him without blowing my top. She keeps him out at other people's apartments, sleeping who know where and not establishing a routine for him that he needs.

I know he wants to be with me because as soon as he is told that he has to leave, he erupts and calls for me. I am going to get this thing going to get him as much as I can since she is always thinking of an excuse to not come home...

[Handful of Rain]

Sounds like a move in the right direction, NoDirection, Take care.

[NoDirection]

Paid the retainer today and getting the process started. I am finished trying to make things work between me and her. I want to be able to spend time with our son. she is denying me that then I need to make sure I can...

[Handful of Rain]

NoDirection, I know how it feels, You are doing the right thing for your son. You tried, but you can only do so much, as I too have recently came to that conclusion. It is hard, but moving on is the thing to do, sorry no inspirational words this time, I hope you can understand. Take care.

[NoDirection]

I know I tried. That is all I wanted to do and it was not in the cards. No one ever gets married thinking they will end up here but it happens. I wanted to be able to look myself in the mirror and my S in the eye and tell him I did absolutely everything possible to save this household...

[Handful of Rain]

NoDirection, Yes, you did do absolutely everything possible to save it. Sometimes we just have to let go, for our own good. Take care.

[NoDirection]

You hit the nail on the head. From talking with everyone that has been involved in this I keep hearing that I have done everything I could to save the M. What is funny though is that my W does not think I have done a thing.

I knew that with the nature of my W when things started getting bad that we were eventually going to split. I just prayed that there would be a transformation in both of us. I believe I learned from this and will not commit the same mistakes if and when God may place someone in that role.

I am honestly somewhat excited about moving on in my life. I dread the time of the D is going to be processed because nothing is going to be finalized. After that though, that is the part I am looking forward to...

[NoDirection]

So she finally came home after 2 days of not being there. Then it hit me that I am going to initiate the divorce. Not that I am scared, although part of me is nervous. I just know that she is going to take off with my son and I will not see him for quite some time.

Another part of me looks at what she has done to me for the last 6 months and recognizes that the marriage is over. We need to move on. It is the separation from my S that is going to hurt the most...

[PMA_Baby!]

Sorry bud. But, like u said u saw it coming. They have 2 do what they have to do. Just act fine with everything. It's not over yet. Give her space and time. You've been doing great. Sometimes they convince themselves they cant be happy while being married. Oh well, their lose. They will figure it out.

"From talking with everyone that has been involved in this I keep hearing that I have done everything I could to save the M. What is funny though is that my W does not think I have done a thing."

Ofcourse, she does. So does mine. How else can they live with the guilt of what their doing??? Could they honestly walk away from somebody that has changed and worked on themselves? No so they need to "demonize" us in their "minds" to justify what their doing.

Keep it up bud. Stay strong. God Speed. B