What Now

[wawpioneer]

I can sure understand where you are coming from on the no contact concerns. I would say that the hardest thing for me to understand is how not doing anything (LRT) can be so effective. My WAW and I did not talk for nearly a week prior to meeting again. She reconfirmed her position to leave. However, during that meeting I did a lot of validating and listening. I had previously written down things that I heard her say that she needed over the past 2 months. After she had said we were through she asked me what was on the notepad that I had brought. I told her what was on it (except for my needs)and left it at that. I told her in the end that we had failed our R but that I was NOT going to fail the M. I told her that I was fighting for her. We left each other on somewhat of a positive tone. She had taken every reason for her to leave me away. She went home and actually reconsidered. 24 hours later she was at home asking for forgiveness and another chance to work on our M. There are no guarantees from her and I realize that. She had to make a choice to come back regardless of her feelings. I have faith that loving feelings will return once we have committed ourselves to positive action.

Sorry so long but the moral of my story is patience. I am still trying to learn it by the way.