I think there are many occassions our H's want to ask to come back or reconcile. They have no courage to do this because they know they don't deserve it. They are so afraid. When the anger is gone, they can rebuild their courage.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11