Boy can I relate to your sitch. Just caught up, it is very interesting.
Just a couple things that came to mind in reading your woes.
The MLC'er have to reconnect to everyone else before they reconnect to you. Even though you feel abandoned and alone, it is part of the process. Let it be.
Fear, shame, and embarrassment are three things your MLC'er is experiencing. Don't forget that. He is deathly afraid of what he has done and how you will react to him. They think by pushing through with the divorce that this will all go away. It won't.
Your H is a child right now, a fearful one. Make him feel safe and secure. Show him unconditional love and acceptance. Show him he has nothing to fear.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
