Calling All Cats :)

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Cat! That is so great. Good realization. You are right. And think about him now, depression, ADHD, still for some reason staying. He is trying.

You both had a hand in where you are now. I keep reminding myself of my role in my mess - too keep me humble, and to keep my W from giving up. Like you, my W worked for years to fix and carry our M/R. My year + is just a drop in the bucket.

Don't be too hard on yourself though. Just accept what you are responsible for. And then don't be too hard on him for his role in all this.

These realizations are powerful, but if you're like me, the feeling will wear off and you'll slip back to where you were. Remember this feeling and call it up then.

And, I think this is not just a great realization about your R/M, but also about you and who you are. It will make you a better, healthier person.

But you knew, and know all that. Just sharing your successes as best I can.

Yay, Cat!