Trouble is... that's not the problem with your H. you're not "the enemy". his problem isnt with YOU. You treat him well. you try to listen to his needs, and take care of him. He knows this, does he not? It's not about you. It's about him. It's ALLL about him, and how your marriage is standing in the way of him playing the field.
And THAT's the truth!
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i think it's the cake-eater in him. he's using it to both denigrate the concept of marriage... yet at the same time, imply that divorce doesnt have to be forever either, so keep being nice to him [dangle dangle dangle nice carrot?]
The funny thing is that I think he means it. I mean, I am sure part of it is the cake-eater in him. But his whole airy-fairy approach yesterday was very, um, oh what am I trying to say..um, very "enlightened" or some such thing. (There is some word that might capture what I am trying to say better, but I can' think of it.)
So, you think that retro would be a waste of time?
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
