not a peep

[Trixi]

Oh to clarify---the "conversation" that I posted above was done via Instant Messenger. That was a cleaned up cut and paste that I posted.

SirPrize-I understand what you are saying. If I did go out on a date, it wouldn't be to get even with him. It would be a nice distraction and give me a boost. Having said that, I am not actively looking to go on a date, haven't posted any profiles anywhere, and recognize that I am wounded right now.

Regarding empathizing and saying that he is really struggling- I don't think that would be validating because he has now made it crystal clear he DOES know what he wants and he wants OUT.

If he had said the "Nothing is Forever" thing once, I would think he was just spouting off. But, he first wrote it in the IM 'conversation' and then said it again when he actually called me. It was obviously some sort of "theme" for him yesterday.

Dom, I don't get what you mean regarding Retro. In the last couple of months, I told him about it being recommended by people here,(I didn't specify DB, just said "a board I read), in the context of judges and attorneys sending people there and it helping people communicate-even if only to help negotiate a divorce. I have told him about it in the context of saving marriages. And yesterday, in the IM, I mentioned not giving it a try. (It has also come up when we are fighting regarding whether or not we've tried all that we can.)

You havent changed anything. You're doing the same things. So you're getting the same result.

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