I'd go get your stuff. It shows her you are moving on. Be positive about it when you see her.
I could Saturday 14th, seems like every choice is poor. Nothing will get her attention more than moving my stuff a week before wedding anniversary. On the other hand staying dark and let dating and wedding anniversaries and the holidays go on by.
Ugh...moving all of that crap will be a pain in the rear.
Most hurtful thing she has said is that life is too short to be unhappy. That thought, in her mind, will not allow her to try. Easier to quit and try something else than to reconsider. Almost like she is WAW and signs of MLC.
On the other hand, waiting for 19th, 21st, and holidays to go by, instead of moving stuff on 14th, would be more of the same. I just need to figure out what is best for 5D and I.
The way she is acting I'll probably get some revised papers or even served before then anyhow. Ridiculous, she has no grounds wants 5D, child support and her ice cream and cake and still cannot give a reason. I have 3 grounds and only want her.
jmw, The life is too short line is par for the course. It is in the same league as you deserve to be happy etc. Don't worry about that. Worry about your daughter. I realize all this is very difficult, i am going through roughly the same things. They are in another time zone. We could only hope they notice eventually want they are getting ready to leave behind. Keep your head up.
Perhaps, I could just throw in the kitchen sink, file fault on 2 easily provable grounds, have her served, and fight for child custody. This would be a definite 180 by not just waiting for my doom but I don't imagine it would win her back. LOL. It would be difficult to win custody, but I have a few points in my favor. Last thing I want to do is hurt WAW by filing fault but it does not seem like she is going to change her mind anytime soon. I just don't think I can live in limbo knowing my WAW is looking for others already.
We could only hope they notice eventually want they are getting ready to leave behind. Keep your head up.
Hard to keep your head-up when she is trying to smash it in the ground.
And filing fault is crazy talk. Sux to wake up and feel like you need to do something knowing you should do nothing. Time heals...
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The life is too short line is par for the course. It is in the same league as you deserve to be happy etc
Oh I have heard them all...ILYBNILWY, I deserve someone who will make me happy, I am sick, I am acting like a nut, she does not want to be married anymore, she nows says 5D and I have Asperger's, I am depressed, I am controlling, I am a perfectionist, I am obsessive, she says I should get professional help, she wants to see the world, life to short to not be happy, on and on... oh and she has no faults of course. It's all me, I validate her but it sure would be nice for her to wake-up and look in the mirror.
Need some input on her looking for OR through pay online dating site and trying to make contact with others through the site, within last few days. Is this just a band-aid or is this just making it clear as a bell she is never going to try?
My WAW believes I am truly sick. I do not know what this means. When this happened, I did reach out to many people, frequently, looking for support/comfort, which she may view as just being a pain, but have not in quite awhile. She even thinks I have Asperger's, which doctor has told me I do not. She might think I am depressed. She might think the Moon is purple which I should validate. However, it is difficult to validate a blanket statement like I am sick without knowing what she is talking about. Especially when she is not around to see my changes or bothering to look at 5D and our relationship/fun. Is this just another excuse like he deserves to be happy? Anyone with some insight?
