Hi AK, I'm with you. My ex pushed for the divorce, and I would love it if he lived to regret it :-).
MZ, give your ex some space. I'm sure it was a blow to him when you dropped the bomb as it was for all of us here on these BBs. I agree with you...divorce sucks! I find it difficult to be friends with my ex but we don't have kids so there really isn't a need to continue communicating.
What you need to figure out is why you wanted the divorce. Why did you push for the divorce? Your ex is going to need a heck of a lot more than, "I'm sorry, honey. I made a mistake."
I hope you have a happy ending.
All my best, alamogirl
Me - 48 (at time of 1st bomb) H - 43 married - 16 Jul 94 no children 1st bomb - (said he was leaving) - 3 Jun 06 2nd bomb (said he was ready to file) - 10 Nov 06 H filed divorce - 17 Nov 06 Divorce finalized - 20 Jul 07