Hi AK, I'm with you. My ex pushed for the divorce, and I would love it if he lived to regret it :-).

MZ, give your ex some space. I'm sure it was a blow to him when you dropped the bomb as it was for all of us here on these BBs. I agree with you...divorce sucks! I find it difficult to be friends with my ex but we don't have kids so there really isn't a need to continue communicating.

What you need to figure out is why you wanted the divorce. Why did you push for the divorce? Your ex is going to need a heck of a lot more than, "I'm sorry, honey. I made a mistake."

I hope you have a happy ending.

All my best,
alamogirl


Me - 48 (at time of 1st bomb)
H - 43
married - 16 Jul 94
no children
1st bomb - (said he was leaving) - 3 Jun 06
2nd bomb (said he was ready to file) - 10 Nov 06
H filed divorce - 17 Nov 06
Divorce finalized - 20 Jul 07