I don't know if I should continue to DB.

[forward]

Trusting and short1, the DB C told me that I needed to do things to reduce anger. So if your H is doing things that annoy you, try to find ways to get around that situation so you can start seeing him in a better light.

For example, this meant that for me, I needed H to care for D2 at his apartment, because when he was in house, he has been leaving a mess. He wants to be here again; I am going to tell him I don't want him to be here because he leaves a mess. Also I found I like the privacy. I can't be friendly to him when I am actually angry about the mess he is making and the fact that I feel taken advantage of.

That is why it is so important to GAL--it gives you a chance to develop some distance. Then you can see if you have a chance to be friends.

I'm saying this but that doesn't mean I have been particularly successful in implementing!