MJ - I am just in awe of your creative side. Zuzu - I love the idea of an erotic scrapbook. What a great Christmas present! What about a mini scrapbook with old photos of the two of you, maybe other memorobilia like tickets to a concert you had seen together with some erotic art (kama sutra poses) cutouts, couples holding hands etc.... absolutely minimize the use of hearts or roses. Add some thoughts about things you find attractive - his eyes, biceps etc... Maybe a line or two of erotic but tasteful poetry. Attach a weekend away gift certificate. Now that is scrapbooking that might promote some desire.
I just love MJs ideas for finding the lioness and monkey in your sexuality. Honey, I have four children from 15 down to 7 months old. I value my ability to lead and my ability to play more than my mommy mode EVERY time. I am a great Mom but the period of time that children need "Mommying" is relatively short and I found the more I Mommied (like I thought I should) the less I even knew who I was as a person and I lost my desire and my sense of humor. I am still a terrific Mom. I can say that with confidence. I breastfeed baby, play play-dough with my toddler, do girl scouts with my 10 year old and laugh at inappropriate stuff on you tube with my 15 year old (while surreptitiously finding out about his life) but I do all of that while still knowing who I am - I work out with a lady from work, I read for pleasure and I dress well (not like a "Mom"). Oh, and my photos? Well, they are all in photo boxes or on the computer with little to no hope of being put in scrap books. Crafty things are not my bag. I love cooking. I'm not saying that there is a thing wrong with being a Mom or scrapbooking but just remember that there are other, less "homey" parts of yourself too.
Isn't there a part of you that can take "I want to eat your box" and say, "With whipped cream and a cherry?" or "Catch me if you can?". Maybe I'm on the wrong track but you seem like someone who has a lot of herself submerged under a lot of "shoulds".
