My H has always been like this. It was a joke between us that he was never wrong when we fought and, if by some chance he was, he would jokingly try and blame me so he could still be right. He was like this pre-MLC - it is just not a condition of his condition.
It just got MUCH worse in the run up to MLC. This is my take on it: his underlying confidence [not the mask he wore] was of fragility and uncertainty, but because he is an introvert, and highly intelligent, his uncertainty didn't take the form of bluster and agression.
His father didnt tolerate mistakes - so doing it right, and being right were necessary to survive - that or be a rebel, and my h was the MASTER of the passive agressive. Interestingly in the run up to MLC his politics took a massive lurch to the right - and suddenly we all [the kids and me] had to subscribe to ideas we thought were loopy, and he got annoyed if we didn't. It was as if his identity was completely tied up with his ideas.
Sound familiar? You might find 'The Successful Self' by Dorothy Rowe a useful read, to help understand why your h is currently so dysfunctional.
