H got ripped a new by my best friend. He called her and she laid into him about the moves he made with the bank account that lead to a 45 minute rant of her telling him what an A$$ he's being.
He called me as soon as he hung up with her to apologise for the bank stuff and said he was reversing it all immediately. I think he got really scared about the legal action I was seeking as a result and started back pedalling quickly. That was all I needed and I started to rip him a new one (and I didn't even know about his conversation with my bf yet!!) I told everything that has been building in me for 3 months...I unloaded big time. At first he got defensive then he just sat their and took it...because he knew he deserved every bit of it.
I stood up for myself and it felt good. It felt good to finally express the anger that I so rightfully feel. I also told him that I have let our marriage go. It's not entirely true...but I want him to believe it is.
I have no idea what this incident will do to him at his stage of his crisis...if anything. Does anyone have any insight or experience with this??
I'm now in the process of trying to 'drop the rope'. I'm losing my grip...but I'm trying to let go.
As I've been told over and over on these boards he needs to go down this path if we have a chance at getting back together. He needs to pursue this with the OW for it to self destruct. And if we have a chance...it has to be starting over for a better and newer us anyway...so I have to let go of the old marriage regardless.
So...I hope today was an awakening of some kind...if not for him, then for me. It is so easy to say...not so easy to do. J~
